In-depth post #3 (week four and five)
De Bono continues his discussion of how to have a beautiful mind with “how to be interesting” and “how to respond.”
Let’s start with how to be interesting. He suggests to talk about what you are passionate about. Sounds like talking about your in-depth project is a perfect fit. You will need to be able to talk about it with people who know nothing about the topic, for example your peers and/or teachers! Secondly, you need to be able to talk about it with people who know something about it, such as your mentors. There are different types of interests: sharing information, asking “what if” types of questions, offering possibilities, alternatives and speculations and making connections between them and practising creativity and new ideas. De Bono suggests that we get into the habit of saying, “Now that is interesting” (p. 49), because it pauses the conversation, stating it “Opens up possibilities and alternatives. You will make connections” (p. 49). In other words, you will have to explain why you find that point interesting.
During your next session with your mentor try…
- #6 To find and make connections that link matters together and generates interest.
- #10 To explore, to elaborate and to pull interest out of the matter.
- #3 To use the “what if” statement to get to new lines of thought.
De Bono states that there are three objectives to a conversation: to reach agreement, to agree on the points of difference and to have an interesting time together. How do we reply or respond to parts of the conversation will further direct the conversation. There are a number of reasons to respond to a comment: asking for clarification, offering support, sharing examples and stories, building on the conversation points, extending the discussion, carrying the discussion forward into practice or modifying the proposition being stated.
During the next two weeks, try
- #2 to ask for clarification whenever you are unclear or in doubt about something the mentor tells you or shows you.
- #3 to support a point your mentor makes with additional facts, figures, evidence etc.
- # 5 to share a personal story that illustrates the conversation topic.
- # 10 to modify an idea to make it more acceptable to yourself and to make it stronger or more practical.
Have fun this week.
Quirien Mulder ten Kate